COACHING FOR HIGH-ACHIEVING WOMEN NAVIGATING A LIFE THAT'S SHIFTING

DR. JITE · LIFE COACH & EDUCATOR

Your kids are out of the house. A long relationship ended. Or the career you spent 25 years in doesn't fit anymore. Now what?

You thought you'd know.

Instead, you're looking at the house and wondering if you still want to live there.

You're thinking about leaving a job everyone else thinks you're lucky to have.

Saturday comes and, for once, there isn't somewhere you have to be or somebody waiting for you to do something.

And you're starting to notice things you've probably been doing for years.

Practicing how you're going to tell your friend you can't come Saturday, then apologizing when you finally tell her.
Knowing what you want to do, but still calling your sister to ask, “What do you think?”
Agreeing to help before you've even thought about what you already had planned.
Cancelling something you wanted to do because somebody else needed something.

The divorce didn't start this.

Neither did your kids leaving or your career changing.

You can just see it now.

SEE WHAT FITS WHERE YOU ARE

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“There's another level of who you are, and you already know it.”

— Racquel L., past client

COACHING FOR MIDLIFE TRANSITIONS

Your divorce has been final for six months and people have stopped asking how you're doing.

Your youngest moved out and has their own life now.

Or you finally have the title and salary you worked years for and you're sitting at your desk thinking, I cannot do this for another ten years.

So now what?

You may know exactly what changed and still have no idea what you want next.

And while you're trying to figure that out, you're noticing other things.

“Sure” comes out before you've decided.

You call three people about a decision you've already made in your head.

You don't want to go, but somehow “I can't make it” doesn't feel like enough, so you explain why.

Someone needs something and you change your plans.

I help you notice what you're doing while it's happening, figure out what you actually want, and do something different.

I've spent over a decade researching how equity gets created in education, and I bring that same rigor here. I've coached women across the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria.

I know this pattern because I've lived it myself.

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Three ways to see what the transition exposed before you decide anything else.

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The 3 Body Signals That Trigger Your Automatic Yes (And How to Say No With Zero Guilt)

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Discover the three body signals that appear before your Automatic Yes, why your body answers before your mind, and the two-second window where you can interrupt it.

Someone asks you for something. Your chest tightens, you smile, and “sure” is already coming out even though you don't want to do it.

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Your relationship ended, the kids left, you retired, or work changed.

Now you're starting to notice things about yourself that were already happening before any of it did.

This masterclass will help you understand what changed underneath the transition.

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The 48-Hour Plan

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A simple plan for when you don't know what to do next.

It doesn't matter if this happened yesterday or years ago. If today feels like one of those days all over again, this is for you.

You've told the story to three people, gotten three different opinions, and you're still sitting there thinking, “Okay, but what do I actually do now?”

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WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE

FORMER 1:1 CLIENT

“There's another level of who you are. And doing this work helped me see that. I opened myself up to love again. Got married. Wrote my first book.”

— RACQUEL L., PAST CLIENT

FORMER 1:1 CLIENT

“I realized how much of a people pleaser I had become. What I am about to do is good for me — but why does it feel so difficult? That question changed everything.”

— PAST CLIENT

CURRENT 1:1 CLIENT

“I thought I needed to pick one thing to work on. What I actually needed was someone who could support me through this and help me see what to focus on and in what order.”

— CURRENT 1:1 CLIENT

THE PROGRAMS

Coaching Programs for Midlife Transitions

Three ways to work with me, depending on what is happening in your life right now.

$150

ENOUGH

4-MODULE SELF-PACED WORKBOOK + AUDIO

The self-paced workbook + audio where you practice interrupting the Automatic Yes in your own conversations, requests, and decisions.

Your friend asks if you can come Saturday. You don't want to go, but instead of saying, “I can't make it,” you start explaining why.

Someone asks for a favor and you say “sure” before you've even thought about what you already had planned.

ENOUGH gives you a place to practice those exact moments.

Put your yeses on paper, write answers that sound like you, keep the answer you gave without going back to explain it, and finish with one decision you've been going back and forth on.

$150

INTERRUPT THE YES · $150

$750

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6-WEEK LIVE GROUP COACHING · FIVE WOMEN

For the woman whose life changed and who does not want to spend another year trying to recreate her old normal.

Your divorce is final, but you're still living in the house you chose when you were married and you're not sure you want it anymore.

Your kids are grown and suddenly nobody needs to know what you're making for dinner.

Or the career you've had for 25 years doesn't fit anymore, and you have no idea what you'd do instead.

UNLOCKED is six weeks of live coaching with five women who understand.

We look at what this change has brought up for you, what you've been avoiding, and the decisions you need to make about what comes next.

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You want to leave the job, but that changes your income.

Now you're thinking about the house.

Your marriage has its own problems, and you're wondering whether you're really willing to change everything at once.

You don't have to pick one thing and pretend the others aren't happening.

We look at all of it together and figure out what actually needs your attention first.

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I NEED SOMEONE WHO SEES ALL OF IT

ABOUT

Dr. Jite

FOUNDER, UNPERFORMED

My mom loved me in the way she knew how.

But somewhere along the way, I learned that love had to be earned. That I had to be more, do more, achieve more to be worthy of being liked, and not just loved, but actually liked.

So I got the degrees.

Took on responsibilities.

Helped people.

Made myself useful.

And said “sure” plenty of times when I was thinking, I really don't want to do that.

Then I'd get home irritated with myself.

Because I knew before I said yes.

That's what got my attention.

What was happening in those few seconds between knowing what I wanted and giving somebody a completely different answer?

I started noticing.

My chest tightened.

My hand went up.

I smiled and agreed.

Later I'd wonder why I'd done it again.

And it wasn't happening in just one place.

I could see it in friendships, work, family, and decisions where I knew what I wanted but still wanted somebody else to agree before I trusted myself.

That's where this work came from.

Dr. Jite has spent over a decade conducting research in STEM education, specifically on how culturally relevant teaching creates equitable learning environments for Black and Brown students who have historically been excluded from these fields, and how representation in STEM gets created deliberately.

She brings that same rigor to her coaching work.

She works with clients across the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria. She speaks several languages, is an avid reader, and runs marathons across different continents.

STAY CONNECTED

Stay close to the work

Every week I write about the things you start noticing when life changes.

Why did I agree to that when I didn't want to?

Why am I calling everybody when I already know what I think?

Do I still want the job, house, relationship, or life I've spent years trying to keep?

And what do I want now?

Notes to My Next Chapter goes out on Substack. New videos go up on YouTube.

NOTES TO MY NEXT CHAPTER ON SUBSTACK VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE

Dr. Jite

Dr. Jite helps high-achieving Black women after divorce, an empty nest, retirement, or career change notice the patterns that became easier to see once life changed.

You may know exactly what happened.

Now you're deciding what you actually want.

Do you still want the house?

Do you want to date again?

Are you really going to stay in that job for another ten years?

Do you want to go Saturday, or are you going because somebody asked?

And what about the decision you've discussed with everybody except yourself?

We start there.

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