COACHING FOR HIGH-ACHIEVING WOMEN NAVIGATING A LIFE THAT'S SHIFTING

DR. JITE · LIFE COACH & EDUCATOR

Your kids are out of the house. A long relationship ended. Or the career you spent 25 years in doesn't fit anymore. Now what?

You thought you'd know.

Instead, you're looking at the house and wondering if you still want to live there.

You're thinking about leaving a job everyone else thinks you're lucky to have.

And if your relationship ended, you may be wondering if you'll have another one, if you even want another one, or what your life looks like if you don't.

Saturday comes and, for once, there isn't somewhere you have to be or somebody waiting for you to do something.

Having more choices doesn't mean you know what you want.

Some of what made sense ten or twenty years ago still makes sense now. Some of it doesn't. And there are things you haven't thought about in years because you didn't need to.

Now you do.

SEE WHAT FITS WHERE YOU ARE

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“There's another level of who you are, and you already know it.”

— Racquel L., past client

COACHING FOR MIDLIFE TRANSITIONS

Your divorce has been final for six months and people have stopped asking how you're doing.

Your child moved out and has a life of their own now.

Or you finally have the title and salary you worked years for and you're sitting at your desk thinking, I cannot do this for another ten years.

You know what changed.

What you may not know yet is what you want now.

And sometimes that surprises you.

You thought you'd know what came next after the divorce. You thought you'd know what you'd do when the kids were grown. You spent years working toward this point in your career.

Now you're here.

You may know exactly what you don't want and still have no idea what you do want. Or you may know and be trying to figure out what you're going to do about it.

This is the part I work with.

I help you look at what's happening in your life now, what you're starting to notice, and figure out what you want from here.

I've spent over a decade researching how equity gets created in education, and I bring that same rigor here. I've coached women across the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria.

I'm in this part of life too. Some of these are questions I'm asking myself.

Free Resources

Start here. No commitment, no cost.

Three ways to see what the transition exposed before you decide anything else.

FREE · ON-DEMAND

The 3 Body Signals That Trigger Your Automatic Yes (And How to Say No With Zero Guilt)

SELF-PACED AUDIO + VIDEO TRAINING

Discover the three body signals that appear before your Automatic Yes, why your body answers before your mind, and the two-second window where you can interrupt it.

Someone asks you for something. Your chest tightens, you smile, and “sure” is already coming out even though you don't want to do it.

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FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS · COMING SOON

The Live Masterclass

LIVE ON ZOOM

Your relationship ended, the kids left, you retired, or work changed.

Now you're starting to notice things about yourself that were already happening before any of it did.

This masterclass will help you understand what changed underneath the transition.

MASTERCLASS COMING SOON

FREE · PDF GUIDE

The 48-Hour Plan

INSTANT DOWNLOAD · PDF

A simple plan for when you don't know what to do next.

It doesn't matter if this happened yesterday or years ago. If today feels like one of those days all over again, this is for you.

You've told the story to three people, gotten three different opinions, and you're still sitting there thinking, “Okay, but what do I actually do now?”

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WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE

FORMER 1:1 CLIENT

“There's another level of who you are. And doing this work helped me see that. I opened myself up to love again. Got married. Wrote my first book.”

— RACQUEL L., PAST CLIENT

FORMER 1:1 CLIENT

“I realized how much of a people pleaser I had become. What I am about to do is good for me — but why does it feel so difficult? That question changed everything.”

— PAST CLIENT

CURRENT 1:1 CLIENT

“I thought I needed to pick one thing to work on. What I actually needed was someone who could support me through this and help me see what to focus on and in what order.”

— CURRENT 1:1 CLIENT

THE PROGRAMS

Coaching Programs for Midlife Transitions

Three ways to work with me, depending on what is happening in your life right now.

$47

ENOUGH

A self-paced workbook + guided audio experience for the moment when you know what you want to say, but start questioning whether what you want is enough.

You may already know your answer.

ENOUGH helps you look at what happens before you change it.

$47 · Lifetime Access

EXPLORE ENOUGH

$750

UNLOCKED

6-WEEK LIVE GROUP COACHING · FIVE WOMEN

For the woman whose life changed and who does not want to spend another year trying to recreate her old normal.

Your divorce is final, but you're still living in the house you chose when you were married and you're not sure you want it anymore.

Your kids are grown and suddenly nobody needs to know what you're making for dinner.

Or the career you've had for 25 years doesn't fit anymore, and you have no idea what you'd do instead.

UNLOCKED is six weeks of live coaching with five women who understand.

We look at what this change has brought up for you, what you've been avoiding, and the decisions you need to make about what comes next.

$750 OR 2 PAYMENTS OF $375

RESERVE YOUR SEAT

$1,000

COMPLETE

4 PRIVATE COACHING SESSIONS · 8–12 WEEKS

Private coaching for the woman whose relationships, work, money, decisions, and what comes next are all connected.

You want to leave the job, but that changes your income.

Now you're thinking about the house.

Your marriage has its own problems, and you're wondering whether you're really willing to change everything at once.

You don't have to pick one thing and pretend the others aren't happening.

We look at all of it together and figure out what actually needs your attention first.

Limited to 2 spots per month.

$1,000 · PAYMENT PLAN AVAILABLE

I NEED SOMEONE WHO SEES ALL OF IT

ABOUT

Dr. Jite

FOUNDER, UNPERFORMED

My mom loved me in the way she knew how, but somewhere along the way, I learned that love had to be earned. I learned that I had to be more, do more and achieve more to be worthy of being liked, and not just loved, but actually liked.

So I got a lot of degrees and worked hard going after the things I thought would prove I was enough.

For a long time, there was always something else to go after. Another degree, another goal, something else I could accomplish. When so much of how you feel about yourself gets connected to what you achieve, there's always another opportunity to prove yourself.

I'm in my 50s now, and that's significant to me. My son is grown. I've been in education for decades, and going after the next achievement doesn't automatically answer the question of what I want anymore.

And that's where my story connects with the women I work with.

Your marriage may have ended. Your children grew up and left home. You retired, or you've been in your career for twenty or twenty-five years and something about it doesn't fit anymore. You may have done a lot of what you set out to do and still find yourself wondering what you want this part of your life to look like.

I understand that question differently now because I'm asking some of it too.

I don't need to make everything I did before wrong. I worked hard for my life, and I'm proud of a lot of it. I'm interested in what happens when you get here and realize the things that drove you for years don't necessarily get to decide what you do next.

That's where my work is now. I work with high-achieving Black women whose lives have changed and who are figuring out what they want from here.

That's where UNPERFORMED came from.

You don't have to prove that you're enough by what you do next. You get to find out what you want now.

PROFESSIONAL BIO

Dr. Jite has spent over a decade conducting research in STEM education, specifically on how culturally relevant teaching creates equitable learning environments for Black and Brown students who have historically been excluded from these fields, and how representation in STEM gets created deliberately.

She brings that same rigor to her coaching work.

She works with clients across the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria. She speaks several languages, is an avid reader, and runs marathons across different continents.

STAY CLOSE TO THE WORK

Every week I write about this part of life. What happens after the divorce is final, the kids have their own lives, or the career you've spent years in starts to feel different.

Sometimes I write about the bigger decisions. Other times it's something small you notice yourself doing that makes you wonder how long you've been doing it.

Mostly, I'm interested in the question that comes after something changes: What do I want now?

UNPERFORMED goes out on Substack. New videos go up on YouTube.

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