Coaching for high-achieving women navigating a life that's shifting

Dr. Jite — Life Coach & Educator

The roles your life was centered around are gone. Now what?

Wife. Mom. Someone many depend on to be there and come through every single time. When those roles move, it usually exposes the fact that something else was always there underneath them. It's already showing up.

Rehearsing your no for three days before you say it, then apologizing for it anyway.
Making decisions based on who might be watching, or who might need something from you, instead of from your own center.
A relationship with yourself that only exists when you've accomplished something or been impressive enough.
Canceling Saturday plans with no real reason, then feeling guilty anyway.

See what fits where you are

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"There's another level of who you are, and you already know it."

— Racquel L., past client

Coaching for Midlife Transitions

My work meets you in many ways, depending on where you are.

Somewhere underneath the role, whether it's showing up as a reflex you can't quite catch or a life that moved without asking you first, there's a version of you waiting on the other side of it.

I've spent over a decade researching how equity actually gets built in education, and I bring that same rigor here. I've coached women across the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria. I know this pattern because I've lived inside it myself.

Free Resources

Start here. No commitment, no cost.

Three ways to see what's actually going on, before you decide anything else.

Free · On-Demand

The 3 Body Signals That Trigger Your Automatic Yes (And How to Say No With Zero Guilt)

Self-paced audio + video training

The two seconds before the yes leaves your mouth are yours to keep, once you know where to look.

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Free · Live on Zoom

The Live Masterclass

Live on Zoom · Replay available 48 hours

Your relationship, the marriage ended, and you dealt with it as best you could. But there's a big difference between navigating the changes it caused and discovering that its end was supposed to show you something.

Free · PDF Guide

The 48-Hour Plan

Instant download · PDF

A simple plan for when life has changed and you don't know what to do next.

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What becomes possible

Former 1:1 Client

"There's another level of who you are. And doing this work helped me see that. I opened myself up to love again. Got married. Wrote my first book."

— Racquel L., past client

Former 1:1 Client

"I realized how much of a people pleaser I had become. What I am about to do is good for me — but why does it feel so difficult? That question changed everything."

— Past client

Current 1:1 Client

"I thought I needed to pick one thing to work on. What I actually needed was someone who could hold all of it, and help me see which thread to pull first."

— Current 1:1 client

The Programs

Coaching Programs for Midlife Transitions

Three ways to do the deeper work — at whatever level of support fits where you are right now.

$150

ENOUGH

4-Module Self-Paced Workbook + Audio

The workbook + audio experience that takes you from the automatic yes to an actual decision. For the woman who's stayed late for a meeting that drained her, smiled through a conversation she should have walked out of, and is ready to interrupt that pattern in her own life, on her own time.

$150 — limited time

I'm Ready to Stop

$750

UNLOCKED

6-Week Live Group Coaching · Enrolling Soon

For the woman standing at the threshold of what's next, ready to create it with five other women who get it, live, for six weeks.

$750 or 2 payments of $375

Reserve Your Seat

$1,000

COMPLETE

4 Private Coaching Sessions · 8–12 Weeks

Work. A relationship. Money. A decision you haven't been able to make yet. A life that needs reorganizing is rarely one issue. We identify the real decision points underneath the noise and build a clear plan around them. Limited to 2 spots per month.

$1,000 — payment plan available

I Need Someone Who Sees All of It

About

Jite Lark

Founder, Unperformed

My mom loved me in the way she knew how. But somewhere along the way, I learned that love had to be earned. That I had to be more, do more, achieve more to be worthy of being liked — and not just loved, but actually liked.

So I went after degrees, took on debt, said yes before I finished deciding, and took on the identity of an achiever whose entire goal is external success. My life was me trying to earn what should have been given freely. And then I realized I was running out of time to live it.

That's when I noticed the pattern. And also when I understood what was underneath all of it.

"It was the yes reflex — hypervigilance, automatic reaching before the mind could decide, smiling through rooms I should have left."

The pattern showed up in my friendships, in every role I took on, in every decision I made around everyone else first. It was running before my mind had a chance to weigh in. That's what I built a framework to address — the body, where the pattern lives.

Dr. Jite has spent over a decade conducting research in STEM education — specifically on how culturally relevant pedagogical strategies create equitable learning environments for Black and Brown students who have been historically excluded from these fields, and how representation in STEM gets created deliberately. She brings that same rigor and pattern-recognition to her coaching work.

She works with clients across the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria. She speaks several languages, is an avid reader, and runs marathons across different continents as her own practice in what it looks like to move through the world for herself.