6-Week Live Group Coaching · Dr. Jite · First Cohort

UNLOCKED

UNLOCKED is a six-week live group coaching experience for Black women 50+ choosing what comes next after divorce or another big midlife change. You get support to work out what you want now and begin making choices that reflect it.

A relationship ending can bring the rest of your life into question, including what you want and whose needs shape your decisions. UNLOCKED begins with those questions and helps you explore how you want to live beyond the relationship.

5 Seats
6 Weeks
$750 Investment
Live Weekly on Zoom
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Where you are

The transition happened. Whatever it was, the roles your life was centered around moved, and the life in front of you does not look like yours yet.

You got on the phone and told the story, maybe more than once. You got four different opinions back, and none of them quite fit, because none of them were actually about your life. Somewhere in the middle of all of it, a question showed up that you didn't have time to sit with: I don't even know what to do right now.

That part passes, and what doesn't pass as easily is what's underneath it.

You did everything right and you have a successful career, a nice home, and the stability people said would make you happy.

From the outside, you still do, and underneath it, you don't recognize your life anymore.

Here's what nobody tells you: this feeling didn't start with the transition.

It was already there underneath everything, easy enough to call normal, because you're functioning, high-functioning, even.

There are weekends you cancel because you can't, and tears that won't come even when you try.

The transition didn't create it and the transition exposed it.

"Pushing through is not the same as living."

"When his needs weren't being met, he left. When my needs weren't being met for years, I stayed."

— Past client

That's why you can't move on the way everyone keeps telling you to. Moving on assumes the only thing that happened was the transition. What actually happened is bigger than that, and it's been happening for longer than that.

UNLOCKED is where you stop only asking what to do next. You ACTUALLY look at what has been happening underneath your choices, how long it has been happening, and what you do once you can see it clearly and for what it is.

By the end of six weeks, you can describe what you want now and identify the habits and expectations that have been influencing your decisions.

You have a written picture of the life you are choosing, a record of one decision you made for yourself, and three real plans on your calendar.

You leave with choices you have already begun putting into practice, and something concrete to return to when you start second-guessing yourself.

Why UNLOCKED exists

Your life was shaped around being chosen and needed so that everyone could count on you.

Now the role is gone and you don't know who you are without it.

This isn't only about the divorce or the empty nest or the career change. If everything that needed you disappeared today, who would you be? What would you do with your days? Who are your people?

Most women try to answer this alone, and you read the books, do the work, and still can't see yourself clearly. That isn't a failure or a lack of information, and no one taught you how to create a life around yourself instead of everyone else.

This is the moment most women get to and don't know what to do with. UNLOCKED is where you stop trying to answer it alone.

"I've never had the opportunity to explore me."

— Past client
Dr. Jite

Meet Jite

I help Black women 50+ choose what's next after divorce or another big midlife change. We begin with what has changed and what it has brought up for you. The question is what you want now, and how you choose it without constantly second-guessing yourself or trying to recreate the old normal.

This work is personal to me, and I did not come to it through divorce. I came to it through the years I spent trying to earn love by achieving and saying yes before I had decided. That is the pattern I kept meeting in myself, and it is the pattern I watch women meet when a marriage ends and the question becomes, what do I want now?

My mom loved me in the way she knew how. But somewhere along the way, I learned that love had to be earned. That I had to be more, do more, achieve more to be worthy of being liked, and not just loved, but liked.

So I went after degrees, took on debt, said yes before I'd finished deciding, and took on the identity of an achiever whose entire goal was external success. My life was me trying to earn what was supposed to be given freely. And then I realized I was running out of time to live it.

It was not a big life shift that first showed me the pattern, but a friendship with someone I had invested in for years. When she pulled away, I started to see that the dynamic had always been one-sided. I had been showing up, adjusting, making myself easier to be around, and making it work.

Her pulling away didn't create that pattern and it made it impossible to ignore. The pattern followed me through every shift and it was there in every role I took on and every decision I made around everyone else first.

It was the Yes Reflex and hypervigilance, automatically reaching before my mind could decide and smiling through rooms I needed to leave.

That's why I created UNLOCKED.

I didn't read about this or guess what was happening. I lived inside it.

I did not need a divorce to know what it costs to keep choosing everybody else first, and I had been doing it for years. That is why I can sit with a woman whose marriage has ended and not rush her toward a new normal. We start with what she can finally see, and what she wants now.

— Dr. Jite

Dr. Jite on niceness as a survival strategy

What becomes possible

Real women. Real shifts.

How Racquel went from earning approval → living for herself

Before: Doing everything she was supposed to be doing. But something felt off. Like she hadn't fully accessed all of who she was.

After: She opened herself up to love again. Started dating. Got married. Wrote her first book.

"There's another level of who you are."

— Racquel L., Former 1:1 Client

How she went from staying silent → holding her ground

Before: Not accustomed to saying no. Making sure everyone else was okay first.

"I realized how much of a people pleaser I had become. What I am about to do is good for me, but why does it feel so difficult?"

— Former 1:1 Client

After: "I would not have done that before. I would have stayed quiet and made sure everyone else was okay. That's not who I am anymore."

How she went from unheard → finally seen

Before: Knowing what she wanted but unable to put it into words, let alone ask for it.

"You were able to hone in on the needs I knew I wanted but didn't articulate, and create a plan around that."

— Current 1:1 Client

What we work on in the room

You identify what ended and what it showed you. You look at where the same pattern keeps showing up in your choices. You decide what you want now, what you are done recreating, and what you are willing to put on the calendar before the six weeks are over.

What you leave with

What you leave with is written down, not only talked about in the room.

01

A signed declaration of what you are choosing for yourself, written in your own words.

  • Your own commitment to those choices, not someone else's instructions.

02

A way to hear your own answer before you call your mom, your sister, or your friends to ask what they think.

  • You still get to ask people you trust and you stop NEEDING them to decide for you.

03

A written picture of how you want your days to look.

  • Who you want around you.
  • How you want to spend your time.
  • What you want more of.
  • What you're done settling for.

04

One decision you made because you wanted it, and a record of what happened after you made it.

  • Something you can point to the next time you start doubting yourself.

05

A written list of what you're leaving behind.

  • Trying to make everyone happy.
  • Feeling guilty for saying no.
  • Waiting for someone else to choose you.
  • Trying to get your old life back.

06

Three real plans already on your calendar before the program ends.

  • Lunch with someone you've wanted to know better.
  • Trips you've been talking about.
  • The class you've kept putting off.
  • Plans you're excited about because they are what you really want.

07

A different way of looking at what happened.

  • You stop asking, "Why did this happen to me?"
  • And start saying, "I can see why this had to happen."
  • You start creating a life that finally feels like yours.

Inside UNLOCKED

Five women in the room together for six weeks.

Weekly Live Coaching Calls

Six 60-minute sessions on Zoom, Tuesdays at 6 PM EST, and direct coaching every call.

Five Women Only.

Small enough that you can't hide in the back. A room of Black women whose marriages ended, whose careers shifted, whose kids left, so you don't have to explain why it's hard to anyone in that room.

WhatsApp Access Between Calls

Real-time support between sessions, when something comes up.

Body-Based Tools

For when your chest tightens, your smile comes up, and you're about to say yes before you've decided. Simple practices you can use between sessions.

Session Replays

Every call is recorded and you can revisit it when life surfaces something new.

ENOUGH — Included

The full workbook and audio experience is included, yours for life, and you can start the moment you finish checkout.

The arc

The UNLOCKED Arc

1

SEE

2

RECONCILE

3

CHOOSE

4

BECOME

SEE

She recognizes the pattern that showed up before and sees how it's repeating in this shift.

RECONCILE

She identifies what ended and what she no longer wants to carry into her next choices.

CHOOSE

She decides what she wants next and the decision comes from what she just saw about herself.

BECOME

She comes out with a clear picture of the life she wants, and begins living toward it.

This is for you if

You're ready to talk about what you want with women who understand why it can be hard to say it. You don't need every answer before you come.

And underneath all of it, you want to actually be available for the people you love, for a relationship if that's what you want, and for your own life, not managing it from a distance but living in it.

If that's you, you don't need a blueprint. You need a room.

If you want a step-by-step plan or someone to motivate you into action, this isn't for you. If you already feel this is a yes, that's all you need.

The first cohort

This is the first time UNLOCKED has ever run.

You're not joining a machine that's been running for years and you're stepping into a room that's shaped around the women who show up. The attention is undivided and the room is small in a way it may never be again at this size and this price.

It means you're the kind of woman who trusts what she already feels.

Imagine

Imagine six weeks from now. A Saturday comes and you don't cancel plans, because you actually want to go. You put something on the calendar because you want it there, not because somebody needs you. You stop calling your friends, your sister, or your mom to ask if it's okay. Someone asks how you're doing, and you tell the truth instead of giving an update that makes everyone comfortable.

That's what becomes available. If you already know you're ready, your seat is below.

Five seats · Enrollment closes when filled

6-Week Live Group Coaching · First Cohort · Founders Pricing

UNLOCKED

$750

or 2 biweekly payments of $375

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Founders pricing will not be offered again. Five seats. Enrollment closes when spots are filled.

Logistics

What to expect.

6 weeks Duration
Tuesdays Live sessions
6 PM EST Session time
60 min Per session
Included Replays

Questions

Common answers.

What if I can't make a call?

All sessions are recorded and replays are included. You'll have access to revisit the material whenever you need it.

What if I don't feel ready to share in a group?

You never have to share more than you're ready to. There are five women, so no one has to explain their entire story before she can be understood. You get to set your own pace.

Do I have support between calls?

Yes. WhatsApp access to Dr. Jite and the group between sessions, for the moment something comes up and you are about to talk yourself out of what you wanted.

Will this work even if I don't know what I want yet?

Yes. Not knowing what you want is often where the work begins. That's the reason to come.

What if I'm still in the middle of it?

You do not have to wait until everything is settled. If your marriage has ended and you still do not know what you want now, you are in the right place. Women also come when the kids are grown, the career changed, or retirement is close, and the same question is sitting there.

What is the refund policy?

Because this is a small group with limited seats, refunds are not available once the program begins. If you need to cancel before we start, email info@drjitelark.com to request a refund minus processing fees.

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Start where you are now.

Five seats. Enrollment closes when spots are filled. Founders pricing will not be offered again.

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